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Goals stuff and other news: paychecks, making new friends, etc.

January 22nd, 2018 at 03:06 pm

Over the weekend I reorganized the basement closet, making room for an eventual preparedness kit and bottled water. I also moved a bunch of yard sale stuff down there. After we have the sale in May, we'll have tons of room in that closet!

I missed the chat for my online class but read the transcript later. I also read some more of my novel-writing book and got through a lot of editing on my novel. I started the character arc spreadsheet but didn't make any progress. I haven't read the assignments for this week because I was hoping to do more with the characters, but I don't want to get behind, so I think I'll just move on to this week's exercises.

Today was my no-social-media-at-work day for the week. I mostly succeeded. I did go on Twitter briefly to see how the bus system was coping with our blizzard. And my work officially closed at 3pm, so I got on social earlier than usual. I still count it, though!

Couple other news items:
- I decided to cancel my web hosting for ordinarysavers.com. I have too many other goals this year and too many things I'm spending my money on. I downloaded a copy of all my entries so if I want to refer back to them or reuse them for anything, I can.

- NT got notice that his company is moving to biweekly instead of twice-monthly paychecks. This is a pain because his paychecks will be smaller, and several months are cutting it very close on expenses vs. income. In June we'll have three paychecks, so I may just have to float a small deficit or something. I'm not sure how I'll handle it yet. He gets his first paycheck of this sort this Friday...I'm not sure what it means that he's already had one paycheck at the twice-monthly rate...it's all very confusing! But I know we'll adjust eventually.

- One of my best friends, who I realized I spend a lot of my time and attention on, has a boyfriend now, and is going through a honeymoon phase where it's hard to find time to hang out. Which is totally fine and cool -- I tended to do that at the start of new relationships too -- except it's made me realize how much of my social life depended on her! I had another friend I hung out with quite a bit who moved to Indiana last year, and another who moved to Missouri the year before that.

I have lots of people I like, friendly acquaintances, but not people I can just call on to hang out with for hours. So I'm trying to think of people I can cultivate more of a hanging-out friendship with.

Oddly enough, one of the days my friend flaked on me, AS and I met two strangers at the show we were attending, and I got one of their numbers because we hung out all night with them and they were really fun. So I may text her and see if I get any response. Of course one meeting is too soon to tell if we'd become close friends, but maybe she'd want to hang out and we could see what happened.

I have a couple of other people I like very much who might hang out with me more if I put more effort into finding things for us to do together, so I'm going to try that as well. I do like hanging out with my downstairs neighbors but they've been super busy with new business ventures and are also dating someone. But maybe at some point they'll be good prospects again.

So hopefully I can fix this lack! It's one of those weird things that I didn't know I was letting other friendships languish until these three ladies withdrew from my life in one way or another. Now my friend with the boyfriend isn't gone, and I'm sure the relationship will reach an equilibrium soon, but I feel like I need to work on strengthening my social network now that I see its weaknesses.

8 Responses to “Goals stuff and other news: paychecks, making new friends, etc.”

  1. Dido Says:

    Good luck with the "hanging out" friends!

  2. ceejay74 Says:

    Haha, I just realized how many times I used that term in my post!

  3. Dido Says:

    Well, lovely to have that kind of friend. I don't so much anymore, not like I did in my 20s and 30s. Being in my late 50s with most of my close friends retired or semi-retired, *they* get to hang out, while I'm busy working. I'm the one who has more of a steady schedule to be worked around--while their schedules to work around consist mostly of travels and choir schedules. I do love my job, but I also miss having that more casual kind of relationship, and having friends in the same phase of life as I am.

  4. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Did your bus system close?

    I had over 40 calls today asking if the buses were running, or if we were going to shut down early. According to the driver supervisor who;s been here 20+ years - we have NEVER shut down for weather.

  5. PatientSaver Says:

    "Hanging out" sounds divine. Used to do that as a teenager.

  6. ceejay74 Says:

    Nope, the transit system (light rail and bus) got me home Monday night after a show! They've only ceased operations once to my knowledge, for half a day or so in about 2011.

  7. ceejay74 Says:

    Dido & Patientsaver, of course "hanging out" isn't nearly as spontaneous and aimless as it was in my teens & twenties! I just like to have that feeling that if I wanted to go out to a show or a bar or a park, that I'd have a couple people I could call up on fairly short notice and they might be amenable to it.

  8. kashi Says:

    One of my close friends just moved away too; I need more "hanging out" friends as well! It's trickier as an adult.

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