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For the single men of SA (and all of us, really)

October 26th, 2010 at 11:55 am

I couldn't help but share this because I feel like there are occasionally discussions of "why do women do such-and-such" (probably because we're a majority-female, largely civil community and so it's a safe place to ponder such questions without getting beat up for it!). This is a thought-provoking take on the most oft-repeated questions, and it all boils down to the same piece of advice: Treat each situation/girl individually. Worth remembering even for the women, because I feel like we sometimes try to give broad answers that, of course, might not have anything to do with the specific situation that triggered the conversation. (Not that I mind having said conversations, but this link reminds me to take all of it with a grain of salt.)



3 Responses to “For the single men of SA (and all of us, really)”

  1. Broken Arrow Says:

    Haha, nice, linking to a Cracked article. I am once again amazed by their ability not to only be humorous, but actually be informative!

    I've fought against that notion for years, that any large segments of the population can be compartmentalized and generalized (even if I do that sometimes, but it really depends on context).

    However, it's difficult to convince some people otherwise? At least when the topic comes up on the internet with other guys. Somehow, they're just convinced that women must be a certain way, and even men must be a certain way as well.

    Another good point that article brings up as that, like with so many other things in life, before we can even search for the right answers, first we must ask the right questions.

  2. MonkeyMama Says:

    I like #6. Big Grin Just seems like an obvious one at times, though not to the males.

  3. ceejay74 Says:

    BA, even I go back and forth on how helpful generalizations are, and I'm genuinely a person who doesn't fit into most generalizations (something I've become much more acutely aware of as I search for financial advice that applies to my situation!). I think using general rules of thumb works to a certain point, but at some time when dealing with an individual, the generic rules stop applying and you start having to consider the unique set of characteristics that are in front of you.

    MonkeyMama, it's like that fallacy of the beauty & the beast-type movies. "If only the beautiful girl would see past my drab surface qualities and see the beauty inside." What's hardly ever brought up is that the drab guy first noticed her not for her inner beauty but--surprise, surprise!--how she looks on the outside. So the falling-in-love part is quite a bit easier for him, as he doesn't have any external flaws to look beyond. LOL. Whenever they have it the other way around in movies (mousy girl in love with popular/attractive guy), the girl is basically a raging beauty with some oversized spectacles or baggy clothes on, and all she has to do to get the guy to notice her is let down her hair and wear a nice dress.

    Sigh...oh well. Luckily real life is much more complicated than that, and people do manage to get together a lot of the time despite all our weird hangups and vestigial Darwinian and/or societally implanted ideas.

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